Why don't I live the way I want to?
1-st lecture (Mothers and daughters)
How a woman's relationship with her mother in childhood affects her adult life
The relationship with our mother is the first and most important relationship in our lives.
In this relationship we form our personality, our connection to our body, our understanding of what love is and our sense of self-worth.
But that's not all. Here, we also take on the scenarios that will shape the way we live our lives as adults.
Many of us live according to scenarios that are not truly ours. They come from our mother’s experiences, her traumas, and her ways of handling life.
So as we grow up, instead of following our own path, we begin to repeat our mother’s story — choosing similar types of partners, creating similar relationships, and repeating similar life choices.
However, these scenarios often go against our true nature.
Even the best qualities of our mother (e.g., strength or dedication) can harm us if we take them as obligations that do not reflect who we really are.
When a woman does not know herself, when she does not know what conclusions about herself, relationships, and life were formed in her childhood, and when she does not know her true needs and desires, she cannot choose her own path.
This lecture is designed to help you recognise those foreign scenarios, distinguish them from your own, discover your true nature, and understand what you truly want for your life.
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Why do I feel disconnected from myself or not feminine enough?
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Why do I struggle to fully accept my body or always feel the need to “fix” it?
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Where do the feelings of not being enough and unworthy come from?
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Where do the feelings of not knowing who I am or what I truly want come from?
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Why do I keep repeating the same relationship patterns and feel dissatisfied in my life?
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Why do I always feel like something is missing in my life?
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Why do I always sacrifice myself, ignore my own needs, and put everyone else before me?
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Why do I constantly feel angry or disappointed with my partner?
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Why do I feel the need to change my partner or wish he was different?
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Why do I feel the need to compete with my partner and be better than him?
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Why do I find it difficult to accept help or feel supported in relationships and in life?
In this lecture we will talk about:
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Understand how your relationship with your mother shaped your sense of self, your femininity, and the way you build relationships with men.
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Recognise the scenarios you inherited from your mother — even the ones that seem “good”.
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See where you may be repeating your mother’s story instead of living your own life.
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Realise what doesn’t belong to you and separate your true needs from what was unconsciously passed down to you.
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Learn how to reconnect with your body, your feelings, and your true nature.
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Learn how to stop repeating unconscious mother–daughter patterns in your relationships.
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Start making choices that reflect who you truly are and the kind of life you want.
In this lecture, you will:
2-nd lecture (Fathers and daughters)
How a woman's relationship with her father in childhood affects her adult life
The father is the first male figure in a daughter’s life, and the relationship with him shapes how she sees men, intimacy, how she allows herself to be treated, and what she believes she deserves.
His presence or absence, his behaviour towards her, and the way he responds to her needs become the foundation for the kind of men she chooses, the roles she takes in relationships, and how she feels in them.
If the father appeared weak or was constantly criticised by the mother, a certain image of masculinity is formed within us.
Later, this can show up in relationships, where we repeatedly choose weaker partners and blame them for not being the man we need them to be.
If the father was unavailable, emotionally or physically, we learn that we need to “earn” love.
As adults, we choose cold and distant men — men we have to please, adapt to, and be “good” for.
Sometimes we choose a partner we can be angry at, compete with — and in this way unconsciously take revenge on our father through him.
If we don’t see and understand this, if we don’t know what relationship patterns were formed in childhood with our father, as adults we keep repeating the same dynamics, unable to create healthy relationships that truly satisfy us.
This lecture will help you see your father through your adult eyes, distinguish your own experiences from your mother’s projections, and break free from recurring patterns that have been shaping your relationships, choices, and life.
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Why do I find it difficult to trust men or feel safe around them?
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Why does intimacy feel dangerous or unattainable for me?
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Why do I feel like I need to “earn” love or attention in relationships?
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Why do I feel the urge to completely merge with my partner and lose myself in the relationship?
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Why do I constantly search for the “perfect partner” but can never find one - there is always something “wrong”?
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Why do I keep choosing men who are weaker than me?
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Why do I choose men that are emotionally unavailable, controlling or manipulative?
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Why do I choose men that are already taken?
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Why do I feel the need to compete with other women?
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Why do I hesitate to take risks or aim higher in my career?
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Why, even when achieving good results, do I feel like something is still missing and I cannot feel fully content.
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Why does masculine energy (inner strength, stability, confidence) seem inaccessible to me?
In this lecture we will talk about:
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See how your father’s presence or absence shaped what feels attractive to you in men..
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Understand how your relationship with your father shaped the way you see men, intimacy, trust, and your inner sense of strength.
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Recognise the patterns you unconsciously repeat with men that were formed in your relationship with your father.
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See where you may be viewing men through your mother’s perceptions or through the eyes of your inner child.
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Learn how to stop trying to earn love, approval, or attention in relationships.
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Learn how to free yourself from unconsciously trying to compensate for or “take revenge” on your father through your choice of partner.
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Learn how to begin making confident choices in relationships and life that come from your adult self rather a small girl who is still trying to prove she is worthy of her father’s love..
In this lecture, you will:
1h 40min lecture + Homework
Money for the lecture is not refundable.